Im so sorry to hear about your worries. Money worries can be one of the worse.
It is a much more comfortable adjustment to go from not having money to having it, but to have it and lose it.............well thats one to kick ya right in the butt! That adjustment is not so easy.
Try to remember this, which isnt easy when your full of worry and frightened of what way your life will turn.
In life when one door closes another one opens. In the midst of a crisis things can seem pretty hopeless. But the truth is your lives could be redirected into something even better.
Maybe your husband will make more money or maybe alot less. Sometimes life doesnt give us what we think we want, but what we truly need. Always lessons to learn. ALthough they are not fun lessons, a lesson anyway teaching us to cherish what we have had, what we do have and putting things back into perspective. After the end of the crisis, you might find yourself happier then before, maybe if it means less money.
Years ago I worked for a very rich family as a private nurse, for an elderly grandmother. I worked for them for a long time and got to know the family well. They had all money could buy, but they were very unhappy people. THey had absolutely no money worries, but it seemed life with so much money had become to easy for them. They found no joy in the small things. Their worries seemed trivial to me, such as whether the maid cleaned the kitchen to perfection. Everything was about appearances, material goods, and what was being done for them by the money they used to buy the services. It was old money too, in the family for generations, so these small things they worried about had became true worries and concerns in their everyday life. All people have worries but sometimes just a different kind.
Where most people worried about paying bills, or can they buy groceries, or afford school clothes for their children, they worried about if the maid was sick or the cook couldnt come for the day. They may have to cook for themselves!!!! Would you beleive on the rare occasions this happened, I the nurse cooked for the family..........lol!
After a few years the grandmother passed away. From this experience I learned alot. ALot of money doesnt make for happiness, I thought it would. It was a curse for these people. They had lost their whole perspective on the bigger picture of life. They didnt have to do anything to grow as people, they didnt have to strive to new accomplishments. In their case I feel they would have been better off without all that money. Im sure if they didnt have it they thought they would surely die.
I have seen people with very little who seem to have a joy about life. They seem to know the important things such as family and health, giving, kindness and when they can afford something out of the originary for them, it is so appreciated.
Struggle in life can make you a better person. This coud just be a stepping stone for your family!
I worry too, and have wishes for more, or ask myself why? But when this happens thinking of different situations in my life where I thought the end was coming but it turned into something better helps.
Good luck to your family. |