Lydia
This is what I am trying to avoid "the blowing up" ,lol. Yes it is pretty unforgivable in that my life now can't be changed. What I have lost I have lost (as far as relationships go).
I just don't want to blow up at the wrong people or neglect my kiddies on days I am feeling funked out.
But I have considered just getting a cup of coffe and sitting with him and letting hoim know where it is at (as you have mentioned). This conversation will either finalized our connection (whatever is left) or he will just ignore what I say as if I am not a person "just a thing" and continue with things in his own fashion. It will then become "my JOB" to continually set limits.
The feeling of wringing his neck is mild in comparison to how I feel about them "ALL"......that covers a lot of territory.
Thanks for commenting. Always helps to realize I am not alone in these matters (or not the only one)
Tina
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GiGi