Gina, I feel so bad for what your brother is going through..Although I don't know what the Florida laws are on divorce I do know that he needs to get tough...I got divorced 9 years ago and am now married to a wonderful man...I had just turned 40 yrs old so my girls were older. One out of HS and the other graduated a few years later...This was a decision that I had made several years before I finally did it...It wasn't because of a man. My X was an abusive alcoholic, more verbal than physical...But, it was still the hardest thing I had ever had to go through in my life. I can only say from experience that your brother can't back down from her...He is hurt and she is going to say things to him that will tear his heart out..I'm sure he is on an emotional rollercoster..Having children makes it that much more difficult. She is going to tell him things that probably aren't even true..I have to agree with some of the posts...her lawyer probably told her to go for EVERYTHING. This doesn't sound like it is going to be an easy divorce...not that any of them are. I learned things from my divorce....never settle! I did and got screwed....(long story!) I'm sure your brother knows he is responsible for his children...I feel he needs a good lawyer so she doesn't take him to the cleaners...I pray you brother gets through this hard time..He is very lucky to have you as his sister and friend...My family turned against me at that time in my life when I needed them them most..(all is good now)being the person that I am.
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