In your breeder's defense - I know that at terrible times like this - a lot of us say things that if we weren't so upset - we wouldn't say.
My sister lost a son a few years ago, and her sister-in-law said, "I know just how you feel. I lost my dog last month." My sister never got over this remark. And, believe me, her sister-in-law has apologized many times. She said that she can't believe that she said that.
Nevertheless --- your breeder's remark was not helpful or kind. I'm sure that she felt very bad. But, if I were her, I would have said that when and if you are ever ready for another pup - I would give one free.
It is truly sad that you lost your little dog this way. I know how heartbreaking it is. It takes a long time to get over the first, hardest grief that you feel - and there will be a sadness in your heart forever. I still love and miss the dogs that l lost over 50 years ago. I think of them often.
I'm sure you'll be ready for another dog one day - and it certainly won't take the place of the one you lost. But, it will be another little dog that you will love to pieces.
Hang in there.... I prayed for time to go by so that my heart would stop hurting so much. It seemed almost unbearable for a long time.
My family almost finally had an "intervention" - to get me to get on with my life.
PS - I do have another little puppy now. And - no - it hasn't made me miss my other dog any less at all. But - my new little pup is almost a year old now, and I love him to pieces. He's a sweetheart, and I certainly enjoy him a lot. I just wish I had my other dog too.
Carol Jean |