and i'm so sorry for your loss i can't imagine
for one it was an accident i am sure but regardless the puppy was in her care she should assume responsiblity and the kind and human thing to do woudl be to wait a bit... or at least rephrase... and then possibly offer you the option of a future pup from another litter if and or when you are ready
the only thing i could possibly say in her defense... is that death is a funny thing and alot of times ppl are at a loss of the "right" thing to say
my co-workers husband passed away and it took me weeks to approach her and tell her i was sorry for her loss... and i cried
its a hard thing some pple can't deal or dont know what to say
BUt... if that wasnt the case here... then she was out of line and i would be upset too
i am so sorry for your loss i can't imagine... take time to heal and everyone is here for you