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Originally Posted by yougetthesmiles I have tried to tell my husband that we would get help. he is afraid if we take them away from there grandparents (even though they really cant care for them) it will start a family feud, but I tell him we have to have whats best for the kids.
we have a 3 bedroom house and we have 3 kids of are own, so 2 more would make a pretty big family and where are they suppose to sleep? It's all so confusing and I just dont know what to do.
But your right, CPS really needs to be called, but how can I do that to my husband? |
I don't mean to offend anyone here, but do you think maybe his parents are getting to where they can't keep up with the kids anymore? I know there are lots of older parents out there. But I know my parents wouldn't do that great watching over my kid because he has way too much energy and my parents have high blood pressure and stress out so easily.
I'm kind of worried about the pool situation. With the kids there someone should have been put in charge of watching over the pool. There should have at least been someone keeping an eye on that 5 year old in the pool. For instance my son always has his life jacket on around the pool and I watch him like a hawk. Thank god your nephew is going to be okay. But how much guilt would everyone feel if something did happen? Just something to think about. I am sure that you guys could try to work something out. Maybe put all of the boys in one room and all of the girls in another? Or make an extra bedroom out of a den or family room? Even possibly move into a different house.
I'm trying to put myself in your situation... I have 3 nephews and a son with one on the way. My sister told me that she wrote in her will that I will take them if something does happen to her and I did the same for her. That would be 4 boys and 1 girl. We just know that our parents would probably not be able to handle the kids. So if I had to raise our 5 kids I know that it wouldn't be comfortable, we might even have to move into a different house if it gets to be too much. But it's just something that I would have to do and have to work out. My grandparents raised 10 kids in a 3 bedroom house and my grandmother died when the some of the kids were very young. The older ones helped out a lot and took care of the younger ones. If there is a will there's a way.
I know what your husband means by not wanting to cause family problems. I think NOW is the best time to try to get him to talk to his family. I mean his nephew almost died. That is a big deal. It's not a THEORY anymore about the grandparents not being able to keep up with the kids, it's reality. We don't want this to happen again. I think that if the grandparents love the kids they would want to do whats best. If CPS does get called I'm sure you'd rather take the kids than have them be given to the state. At least this way the grandparents and the family can still visit all of the time.
My heart really goes out to you and esspecially those kids. It just sounds like something needs to be done. You and your husband sound like the more stable people in their lives. Those kids need stability. I really hope that you guys talk and then talk to his parents. I know they love their grandkids like my parents do, but we all just have to think about what's best for the kids. I know that if you pray for an answer it will eventually come. Good luck.
Are there any updates on your nephew? Is he out of the hospital yet? Does it sound like there are any lasting effects?