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Originally Posted by LuvtheCooper .....Anyway, my two cents is really that you cannot change other people, only how you react to them. Again, I offer my congrats to your whole family and hope this works out for you cause family problems really really SUCK!!  |
Had to laugh at this one. That is the exact same advice that I am constantly giving other people. Maybe I should listen to myself once in a while.
My DD told me today that her DH told her that I don't like his family, and that is the reason why I did not stay up there after the birth of their children. I go up for the delivery, but when his family shows up we leave, shortly afterwards.
But there too, they make it a 3 day event. I know my daughter, and I know that she will try to be the hostess, even from her hospital bed. I know when she is stressed and I try not to add to it. So even though she asks me not to leave, she is also thanking me for understanding.
These people are clueless. I am actually hopping that some good will come of this. I wrote an email to the MIL, and apologized for, but also explained, my actions.
I know one cannot change other people, but sometimes they do change on thier own if you change your reaction. so this time instead of backing off, as I usually do, and having them think I am standoffish, which I am not, I changed my reaction, so maybe they will change thier ways.
One can always hope
