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Originally Posted by teri88

I see his side in that you knew he would be really upset, so you just didn't tell him. If you knew he would be really upset then you probably should have talked it over. Let him get all of his anger out before hand. Then, after he was done yelling you could calmly say "I understand you aren't happy about this, but it is my hair. This charity means a lot to me and I'm going to do it"
He probably would still have been angry but it would have shown that you respect his feelings. That said: no matter how angry he is now, he should not be making personal attacks. (telling you you look awful, etc.) Right now he is probably feeling that you don't care about his opinion and his feelings are hurt because you didn't consult him (or warn him) about something that meant alot to him. If it was me, I'd probably tell him "look, I made a mistake in not telling you beforehand. I didn't realize it meant so much to you." And tell him what you said on here, how you really loved your long hair and it was a hard thing for you to do, but you did it for the kids who have cancer. You didn't do it to spite him or to hurt him, you did it for the kids. I think if he really understands that he'll come around.

As always Teri, excellent post. Your husband is a lucky man to have such an understanding wife