I've been following this. You've done a great job of letting him work out his own anger and not lashing out back to him. But, he said some very hurtful things. You need to tell him that even in anger it is not right to hurt you.
I can totally understand why he would be upset that you didn't warn him, especially if you know he was so attached to your hair. (what is it with guys?) I was even kind of siding with him thinking if you discuss everything and you just went and did this without telling him, well I understand why he's upset. That was until he got to the permission part. You are an adult. You do not need his PERMISSION for anything that you do.
I think your hair is not the real issue here. Maybe you both should go for counseling to decide in advance how you would handle an issue like this in the future. And he needs to learn how to express his anger without making personal attacks.
Final words: you look gorgeous! |