aaawww, Vally! I am so sorry you are going thru this

Eli is the opposite of my Big Daddy...he's always telling me to cut my hair into a bob
This does sound like it's something else and not just the haircut. Do you make a lot of decisions or plans without him? Maybe he is just reacting to being left out on some level? I kinda agree with Jenn on this...maybe you should just pop over to a friend's or your parents' house and spend the night. A little space may do you some good?
Good luck and you really do look great. It really isn't a bunch of people "just saying" it. It's true