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Originally Posted by k3teejay Thank you all for such great advice. I would love to never step foot in her house again, but I feel it is my duty to get along with because she will be apart of my family very soon. I was taught to treat your elders with respect but it's so hard to show her respect -- extremely hard.
This is pretty personal, but I feel comfortable enough with everyone on this board to share.
Last year, my fiance and I found out that we were expecting a baby! Oh what wonderful news it was for us since I was told by many doctors that it'd be near impossible for me to become pregnant. Unfortunately, about 3 months into the pregnancy, I had a miscarriage. My fiance at the time worked at a store that his mother owned. I needed to get to a hospital.. quick! However, his mother would not allow him to take me to the hospital. She told him that I could take myself, although I was in MAJOR pain and was bleeding alot. My fiance just walked out of her store and drove me to the nearest hospital. I think at that moment, she realized that her son chose me over her and she couldnt accept it. Since then, things have just gotten worse.
Anyway, thank you all for listening. It really is a huge relief for me to finally let out how I feel. |
I personally, just my opinion, think that she doesn't deserve your respect. You respect your elders to a certain point. You should never belittle yourself by going over there if she doesn't show you any respect. Yes she will be part of your family but that's just blood relation through your fiance. Blood relation does not provide love, support or respect. She needs to earn that and I don't think you should bend over backwards for her in any way. I would really stop going over there and stop worrying about TRYING to get along with her. Do what makes you happy. Sometimes we have to learn to be selfish. I've learned the hard way that some people just never love you enough or respect you and some people you are just not meant to get along with. She may be one of them. Let her beg for your affection and forgiveness and if she doesn't it's her loss.