[Bizzymammabee]

Listen the best thing first off is to take step back from the ex. Honestly do some soul searching over the issues you are having with DH. Even if there are children involved I feel that people that are seriously unhappy shouldn't stay together. I speak from the experience of being one of those children in that situation. Till this day I still tell my dad that he should just walk away from my mom. I personally being a child of a unhappy situation would like to say if you are not happy please go on and don't drag it out thinking you are doing something good for us. We can feel the tension and see the unhappiness..even when adults think that they are disguising it.

Once you can sort out that mess at home if you really want to see and play the "whatif" game with your ex then do so.

I have been married for 7 years and with DH for almost 14 (I have been with him since I was 17). We have three young children and I have to say if either of us is unhappy and can't or don't feel it's worth working out then we are going to go our seperate ways. You might no longer be a good match couple wise but you can still remain great parents no matter if you are apart.