STOP, STOP, STOP! There are too many products, too many to try, it's all too confusing!!

So many things sound so good, how is a person supposed to know? I've already bought a few of the ones mentioned here. Yes, they all make Tinka really soft and her hair is easy to brush, but I haven't tried anything yet that knocks my socks off. One good shake and her hair is all over the place like I never did anything to it. (kind of like mine, now that I think of it)
She is still a pup, so does that make a difference? When do they lose their puppy coat? (I'm sure there's a correct way of saying that)
So confusing........

my head is spinning around and around and around. Stop the merry go round!
omega (i think)