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Originally Posted by AmyZinNC Thanks guys. Last night was very hard. The family decided to leave her casket open. You could almost tell where it was done  Her face was SOO swollen, did not look like her at all. Im surprised the family wanted her remembered that way.
Her 6 yr old daughter was there, but she doesn't understand much yet. She was told mommy was sick and got worse while she (daughter) had been away for the weekend) She kept going up to the casket and would look a minute...then walk away.
It may hit her after the burial today when mommy isn't physically "there"?
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How sad. I don't think I would've given her daughter that explaination...that she got worse AFTER she was gone. I'd think it would make the child afraid to ever go anywhere if people disappear while you're gone. At 6 years old, it'll take a lot more time for her to realize that her mother is not coming back. They just don't grasp the concept that death means forever. My mil died a few years ago, she was ill. Her grandson whose 5...still occasionaly asks...when mee-mee gets better, she's coming back, right?
How awful this woman's pain was so intense that she thought being dead were preferrable than being with her daughter. Or that her daughter would be better off.....
PS A friend from HS commited suicide with a gun. His parents had an open casket. Yes, you could tell he'd been "fixed". I don't know why his parents did that...perhaps so people wouldn't say..."oh, he must've looked bad, they kept the casket closed." My mother (who didn't commit suicide) had told us she did not want her casket open. She preferred for people to remember her as she was...not a bad idea.