Honey you were meant to have your baby. Now your mil needs a real slap in the head. I think it's a great idea to work out the detail with another parent. I am sure that you have done a ton of car pooling for others so I am sure that someone will be glad to do it in return. Your mil sounds like my mother. My mil was the best...thank god and made up for my mother.
What you or your hubby decided to pay for that furbaby is for sure none of her beeswax. When I got Lex and my husband asked I told him the same thing. I wouldnt' have spent it if I didn't have it. You have a right as a mother and wife to require some creature comforts and if that baby makes you happy then you for sure deserve it. So piss on her..literally. Maybe your new pup will do that for you
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As for her making excuses to not watch her grandchildren...she is the lowest. So much for a grandmother's unconditonal love. Sad that she would punish her son's children that way to punish you.
Good luck and I hope you get a ton of enjoyment from your new baby. I am sure that will make her even madder when she sees how you managed to be wonder woman and pull it all off.
