[Tashasmom]

These are the hardest times as a mom. I know. I have a son that turns 18 in june..two teen daughters 15 and 13 and a 3 year old son.
The way I have ran my house is i am not THEIR FRIEND but i am their MOM. They have plenty of friends but only one mom. You can't guide a teen while trying to be their friend. You can be there you can listen and you can help them with their problems but the minute you get on the friend level you've lost the game. I would take away all of her privelages..she may hate you now but later will thank you. It's hard but it's in their best interest. I allow my kids their space to a certain degree. If the boyfriend is a problem and you feel he is a bad influence then don't allow her to go out with him. It's our job to make decisions for our kids. My son went out with a girl that was allowed to do what she wanted..next thing I know my son wanted to do what he wanted. He no longer was allowed to see her. He hated me for a long time for that. NOw he thanks me cause he met a girl that likes what he likes and he's happy with her. I come down hard when they do things they aren't allowed. I am strict..but we have to be to guide them right. NOw he's almost 18 and we are friends now. He isn't raised all the way but he's getting ready to move out on his own and we have a good relationship. He survived me being strict and I survived him. But i know i did what was best for him. I think too much freedom is bad for kids. But I also think being too strict is as well..good luck..