Thanks for all the advice, I appreciate it. It's been hard, I have my girls most of the time so sometimes I just get over stressed about it. As rude as this sounds, I would just love a few days to myself.
Dad is taking her this weekend so maybe that will help. She's normally a good kid, just made some bad choices these past few weeks. We've talked but she didn't say much. I agree with bchgirl about earning privledges and this is something I tell both girls all the time. Therefore, I took her phone, internet, and driving privledges until her grades come back up. I've also limited the boyfriend time. He's a good kid too for the most part. This is my daughter's first "true love" she thinks. And txshopper73, no birth control although I've asked a few times if it's necessary and to be sure to let me know. Lord help me but I'm guessing it will be soon.
Ponyup you remind me of my youngest. She struggles with her identity a alot and the friend thing is something I have an issue with too. She's got just a handful of friend and some are bad eggs in my opinion and I won't let her go over to their house. She is one of a kind I'll tell you. Makes me proud though at her beliefs. She's got some pretty strong convictions and doesn't stereotype much. She absolutely refuses to clean her room. She says it's because I'm always asking if it's done or whatnot. She says that if I stop asking her to clean it she will, only reason she doesn't is because I won't leave her alone about it.
Mustangbee: "When my kids do something I don't like, I always ask them what would you do if your kids did that." They say, we wouldn't care.
As for the boyfriend, well to them he's just a really good friend, my best friend. They both like him ok, he's been around for almost 5 years. We really only do the boyfriend/girlfriend thing when the kids aren't around to be honest. As weird as it is, it's working for us for now.
Recently though I told him to piss or get off the pot because I wasn't doing this for very much longer. (that's another story though.)
But thanks everyone for listening and advising. I just needed folks to talk to and I don't have many around here that I can.
chuse