[klogan]

Interesting situation. Here are a few points:

1) You are right - just put everything up high. We can't leave ANYTHING laying around the house or Stomper will get it. We always have to have a perfectly clean house. I guess that is somewhat of a good thing. It is an easy fix - he just needs to be consistent.
2) Beware of someone that gets that mad over a dog. If he can't handle a stress of a little dog running around...what about a baby? Just a thought to consider.
3) You shouldn't have to "choose" between the two. That is not fair of him to do that to you in my opinion.

There are simple changes you can make to help this problem. Here are a few suggestions:

1) Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that giving your dog up is not an option. There are things you can do (together) to prevent these "accidents" from happening. Work something out... You both need to take ownership though of the quick fixes around the house.
2) Your dog is jealous. Stomper used to do that. Be consistent and tell the dog NO! Your dog does need to know that the other human does come first and she can't always get her way. If you are consistent with this, she will stop doing that. Just kiss a lot! That is what my husband and I did. I would make Stomper sit down and call him up when we are done. He has gotten much better. You need to teach the dog a new trick!!! Even use treats. I promise this will work! Be consistent though.
3) Crate the dog more often rather than loving her all the time. She needs to learn she can't have it all. I know that is hard. I find it hard myself. I sometimes close the bathroom or bedroom door while I'm in it and don't let him follow. He still whines, but gets the clue and will eventually walk away. I know it is hard, but it will be good for your little one.

Hopefully you will find one of my bullets above helpful. Best of luck to you. I feel really bad for your situation.