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Originally Posted by jkat I'm sorry to hear about your upbringing. Parents should not behave like that. I guess that's why you feel so strongly about parental involvement.
For me, my mom has always pushed me to think and to look for solutions myself. Sure, I'd always tell her what's bugging me and she'd offer me advice and her opinions. She'd encourage me to take steps, provided, that's what I wanted to do. Because of the way she brought me up, I'm very confident with what I do.
We had a family friend who's constantly worried about her son. She'd shelter him from anything and everything. He grew up with a bad immune system, can't handle a slight cold. I remember whenever he had problems at school, confrontation with someone, his mom ALWAYS stepped in. His gap between his peers became even wider. He had and has no friends.
Apparantly, my opinions of child-rearing are very different from everyone elses' on here. But, that's just the way I was raised and I believe my mom did a terrific job on both my brother and I. |
I do agree with you that problems should be solved on the lowest possible level. Then if there are still problems, go up to the next level. This is something they really stressed when I was in the Navy. I think it's great that you felt like you could talk to your mother about things and trust her so much.
I agree with you that communication is very important. I think that a parent should also involve their kid in any actions they plan to take and let them know what is going on every step of the way. What is going on is so important to these kids and they need their parents to at least guide them on what to do. I think that this is a major case and I hope it gets resolved soon and the they don't miss a game.