I know I'm probably going to sound like I am contradicting myself as to what I said above, but here it goes:
I am a teacher (as I stated before
), and it does get a little annoying when kids go home and "tattle" on me, and then I get a phone call from mommy or daddy. I would prefer in this situation for the child to come to me privately and discuss the problem. When everyone has cooled off (the student and myself) the problem is most always solved...whether I fix it, the student does, or nothing gets fixed but there is more of an understanding. I am one of those teachers who will admit to being wrong and I don't want my kids to hate me. If they do, that's their choice, but I'm not saying I like it.
Now, if the kid does go home and what I feel like is sometimes "tattling" I will resolve whatever it is with the parent. That doesn't mean the parent "gets his/her way." It means we had an adult converstion and everyone understands the decision I made. Once again, if I feel as though I am wrong, I will fix what I did. So, I am all for speaking with the child first.
BUT...this involves a group of children. If the children bombarded the coach, he might get more angry. In my opinion, the parents need to intervene in this case. The students are obvioulsy very upset and need back up from their parents. I'm glad everyone is going to speak to the coach.
All I have to say in my conclusion is this: I am DARN happy I am not that coach today!!