I don't think it's the dog at all. I think you've been through such a tough time that you are fully of anxiety and are putting this over onto the dog. It's not healthy for you to be so full of emotion i.e. spending the day crying when she doesn't eat. You are wearing yourself out. Is there anyone you can talk to about these feelings that could make you feel calm and that you trust to share how you feel. I know you feel anxious about your dog but honestly I don't think a dog will let itself starve so try and relax and just know that you are doing the best you can and go by the vets advice that your dog is okay. I thoroughly 2nd what the other replier said in that I think it would do you the world of good to get out and maybe pick up a bit of part time work or even volunteering somewhere. You need to occupy yourself and do something just for you. I hope you feel better soon but don't be too hard on yourself, you have experienced tough times but try to keep things rational and not let your thoughts run away with themselves. Remember we can't control our emotions but emotions are feed by thoughts and we can control our thoughts. So when you have a thought, ask yourself 'is this rational or irrational' and if it's irrational try not to pay it any attention. Also don't give any attention to 'what if' thoughts. If you have a thought that starts with 'what if' you know this is not rational and is just down to your anxiety and just let it come into your head but go straight out again, don't fixate on them. 'what if' thoughts can drive you made but are not based in reality. The good thing is you know this is irrational behaviour and because you are aware of it you can put into practice ways to try and cope with the irrational thoughts you get. There are lots of books if you are unable to speak to anyone that can help. I found anything written by Dr. Claire Weekes to be invaluable when I was coping with anxiety. I wish you all the best and hope you feel better soon. xx |