[Maximo]

I am very sorry for your losses of your mom and grandparents. That is a lot for any one person to go through, especially when you were a caregiver.

I can relate to worrying a lot about your pup's health and the inevitable day when you will have to say goodbye. I have to remind myself a lot that I can't dwell on that or I will miss out on enjoying my doggies while I have them.

I'm sorry the doctor you tried talking to said "just a dog." Dogs are living beings, members of our family.

Have you looked into support groups or grief, depression counseling in your area? I would look and find people who appreciate pets.

You are right that we can stress out our doggies by stressing about them. They are very much in tune with our feelings. When my boys have been sick or injured, I have a hard time just leaving them alone to rest and recuperate (that is with vet care, of course, but they also need rest and positive energy).

You definitely need to hide the tears and anxiety when she doesn't eat. She might associate eating and food with negative emotions. You mentioned that she often eats at midnight or 1 am. Is that a quieter time in your home? Maybe she feels more relaxed?

Having a daily schedule of activities helps my boys. It's soothing to them to know when to expect things, and I think it makes them eager for their meals. For instance, they love dinner because they know that means their big outing to the park comes soon after.