When my DMIL lost her beloved poodle after 15 years, her daughter went out and got a beautiful poodle puppy and surprised her with it. My MIL was very angry. She wasn't ready, really did not want another dog. So my SIL had to find a new home for the puppy.
Getting a pet is a huge decision. He should be able to make that decision too.
It can be hard to understand how anyone would not want to replace a beloved pet with another to love, but I believe that should be respected.
I think both partners have to agree on having a pet, replacing a pet or any scenario.
If he had agreed to a get a new dog and changed his mind, that would be one thing.
My DH has said that he would want another dog if Dinky were gone, and I don't think I would. I would be beyond livid if he brought one home without asking me.
Personally, in the situation you describe, I would tell DH that it would hurt like anything to give up the new dog, but you will respect his wishes. He has to be part of the decision. It is his home too. |