With our 2 Yorkies, they are not pampered. We give them love and pet them but we don't "pamper" them.
We don't do things when they ask. We do things for them when they've done something; i.e., sit, down, etc.
Even if they want to be petted, I tell them to "sit". Then I will pet the dog.
If you want your dog to come, you have to start out using a leash to teach it. You put your dog in a sit position and walk to the end of the leash and say the dog's name & "come". You praise the dog every step it takes. If the dog doesn't move toward you, just give a slight tug on the leash.
Practice and consistency is the name of the game in training your dog.
Don't ever give a command if you think the dog isn't going to obey it.
We never take our dogs out to go potty or for a walk without a leash.
If the dog is too involved in something, don't ask it to come to you. Go get the dog yourself. If you know it won't come, then don't ask it to come. All this works for us.
Good luck - always keep working with your pet at learning new things. It's good for bonding. It all isn't just about pampering your pet.