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Originally Posted by ladyjane  Anyone who makes personal attacks, all you do is report them.....the admin and mod don't allow such behavior. People make up this stuff...saying they have been attacked when they have not. I have seen that SO much over the years. It gets old.
You mention "tone" yet you know full well that "tone" in any of these posts is how the text is perceived to that person. I am sorry Jeanie but I really get tired of hearing people bring up tone as if they have a better "tone" than others.
The reason some points don't come across effectively is usually because the person does not want to hear it.
I am done with this. Just gets silly sometimes...no offense but I simply don't agree with this. |
If you think my discussion about tone gets gets silly and disagree, Linda, your opinion is welcome and noted, the more the merrier. Goodness knows you and many of us have been attacked when trying to dispense what we thought was well-intended, good advice. But OP started this thread to ask for more respect and for a kinder, gentler YorkieTalk due to complaints about the kind of mean-spirited, disdainful, snarky posts being made all too often. To me, that speaks to content and
tone of posts. I think most thinking people would agree that a kinder, gentler, more positive tone or accent in a post works far better at conveying one's message than a harsh, snarky, aggressive style of posting, irrespective of what type of person is on the receiving end or how they choose to receive or perceive it.
We can't just post anything we'd like and then say our words, tone or style were misunderstood by others or they just didn't want to hear it - we all bear the responsibility of the content and tone of our posts and if we've done our best to stay as kind, compassionate and supportive of the dog we're posting about to his owner/guardian, and we're still misunderstood or even verbally attacked, so be it. We can rebut. And if it is a non-dog thread, we can still state our opinions and advice in the same way, free of scorn and spite.
And if anyone personally attacks me on a public thread, I'm probably not going to report it to Admin and just quietly skulk off into the shadows, I'm likely going to personally respond and defend myself for as long as it takes or until I lose interest, but it will be done with as much dignity and respect as I can muster, still hoping to get my points across to anyone out there who wishes to receive them - or not.