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Originally Posted by CouversMom  I am definitely finding this thread interesting.
I am 27, have been married for 6 years and am child free  We have not had the desire to have children yet, and I don't know if we will. I am so focused on myself right now, teaching full time, finishing up my Master's and thinking about my Doctorate that I could not imagine having a child right now.
It is very sad to me when women have children young and do not get a chance to figure out who they are first. I know a lot of women my age who got married young, had babies and are now divorced single mothers without an education. I think it is important for people to do what they need for themselves before they start bringing others into this world.
My husband jokes that we are waiting until we are ready and for the 'perfect time' to have kids and that never happens for anyone. We joke that we are going to wake up one day at 50 and realize we forgot to have children  I wish more people realize how big a decision having children is and would think more about it before committing to it.
Has anyone here seen Idiocracy? lol |
I love Idiocracy. Makes me laugh and cry.
My parents married and started having children fairly young, early 20s. If my mom had not died, I'm pretty sure they would still be married. However, my mom did put her law school and other career ambitions aside for us kids. Dad often says he should have stayed home and sent my mother to work. Every situation is unique.
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Originally Posted by Cha Cha When I was a little girl all I wanted to do when I grew up was be a mom. The mom I never had. Funny that THAT is not a "real" profession, LOL, yet it's one of the hardest and most important jobs there is as echoed throughout this thread. I think it's very responsible when people to recognize that and don't give in to society's pressures. The attitudes of our youth might look quite differently if people took having kids more seriously, like a "real" job. I did go to school, but still married young and started my family young. I consider the job I did raising my girls a dream fulfilling accomplishment. I'm not raising grandkids, I'm still married to the original guy (26 years), and I am still young enough (mid 40's) to do anything "childfree" I wish to do at my age. To us, it is our friends our age with young kids that are tied down while we have our freedom (except for those silly dogs again). LOL... Just another side to this discussion. |
Being a mom is definitely a REAL profession. One of the reasons I was scared of the idea is that I know I would be overprotective. I would be a bad mom in that regard.
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Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom I honestly and wholeheartedly believe that being a Mom is one of THE hardest, most demanding, and most selfless jobs in the entire world...x10! I'm not even a skin-kid Mom, yet I completely know this/feel this. I honestly think it would've just been too much for me - that I couldn't have handled it in the way I would've hoped I could. It's just *such* a big job. And I also really think that no matter how much most hubbies help out, it's almost always the Mom who is the nucleus and bears the most of the responsibilities (and I think it's the same w/ fur kids too - I'm the one, by far, who is way more responsible for the dogs and their health etc as compared to my hubby.
You sound like you are such an awesome Mom! I wish I'd had a Mom like you growing up . I feel like I missed out on soooo much love and so much foundation and so much self esteem with the parents I was dealt in life. Your kids are sure lucky. |
My mom was a great parent, but my dad was more motherly.
I suppose it was a good thing since mom passed at such an early age. Dad is probably the way he is because he was raised alone by his mother, a truly great woman.