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Originally Posted by DBlain  I am child free and love it. Most people including myself thought I would have a bunch of kiddies since I LOVED and still love kids. But by the time I got married at 35 my lifestyle had changed and my husband was never that fond of kids. I also don't think without lots of medical help I would have gotten pregnant anyway. I am glad adoption works well for many people but raising an adopted child can present problems unique to that situation. If you want a closed adoption it is almost impossible to find a newborn white baby, so my sister choose to adopt a one year old girl from China. While I know many adoptions from other countries go well, this one has been rocky from the start. A difficult distant baby turned into an EXTREMELY difficult teen, she has emotional issues, anger issues, bonding issues and so forth. She also has always been uncomfortable with the fact that she looks Asian while her parents do not. Because of her personality it is hard for us in the family to be very close to her and like it or not the truth is my family especially my parents just do not feel the same about her as if my sister gave birth to her. |
What a sad situation for this poor child to be face with. Why don't you send your sister's child right over here to me and I will show her what love and acceptance is since she is not receiving this from your family. To say that she is a teenager with a bad attitude and that is why you and your parents feel differently is just beyond my comprehension. When you open your home and life to a child through adoption you need to open your heart as well. How sad for this poor child.
I am an adopted child and THANK GOD this was not true for me. Not only that but after searching for my birth mother for my entire life I was able to find her in May 2012. She is now part of my life and I was appointed her Legal Guardian in Jan. 2013. My mom who raised me was fully supportive of my decision to petition the courts for guardianship. Obviously, my mother was far more capable than yours to not only accept me as her child but also to accept my birth mother as part of my life now as well.