I am 24 and whenever I tell anyone I don't really see children in my future they shrug me off and tell me that will change in a few years. I was raised as the smallest child in my entire family. Till this day I am the smallest because none of my cousins or family members have kids. I was raised around adults and my grandparents to the point that I never liked other kids much, I never liked to play with toys or color my childhood activities was helping my grandma cook, sew, and clean. I always attribute that to my hesitation around children.
Whenever a friend is passing around her baby I quickly try to leave or only hold the baby for a second and pass it to the next person. I always feel odd because I am very maternal over my friends and family. Most of my family considers me the matriarch of the family because I am the center that keeps everyone together. I still can't imagine myself with children, I see what other people need to go through the exhaustion, the money, the hard work, and much more and I just look at that and think, it's not what I want.
Whenever I have told anyone how I feel they call me selfish. I hate that selfish has such a negative connotation. What is wrong with trying to make yourself happy and doing what makes you happy. A lot of my friends are now starting to have children and they all said the same thing before about how great it was going to be and how happy they were and now a few years after their child is born they look tired and they have all expressed that they had no clue how difficult it was going to be. Right now I have plenty of money and time to travel, eat at nice places, have a great time, help my family, and have alone time just watching TV and I love it.
Dino & Bucket are my babies and enough work for me. I am not sure if my views will change in the future but as of right now its how I feel and honestly I don't feel like I am missing out. |