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DBlain · 10-13-2014, 08:33 AM

I am child free and love it. Most people including myself thought I would have a bunch of kiddies since I LOVED and still love kids. But by the time I got married at 35 my lifestyle had changed and my husband was never that fond of kids. I also don't think without lots of medical help I would have gotten pregnant anyway. I am glad adoption works well for many people but raising an adopted child can present problems unique to that situation. If you want a closed adoption it is almost impossible to find a newborn white baby, so my sister choose to adopt a one year old girl from China. While I know many adoptions from other countries go well, this one has been rocky from the start. A difficult distant baby turned into an EXTREMELY difficult teen, she has emotional issues, anger issues, bonding issues and so forth. She also has always been uncomfortable with the fact that she looks Asian while her parents do not. Because of her personality it is hard for us in the family to be very close to her and like it or not the truth is my family especially my parents just do not feel the same about her as if my sister gave birth to her.

10-13-2014, 08:33 AM	#33
DBlain Donating YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Oakland County MI Posts: 6,190	I am child free and love it. Most people including myself thought I would have a bunch of kiddies since I LOVED and still love kids. But by the time I got married at 35 my lifestyle had changed and my husband was never that fond of kids. I also don't think without lots of medical help I would have gotten pregnant anyway. I am glad adoption works well for many people but raising an adopted child can present problems unique to that situation. If you want a closed adoption it is almost impossible to find a newborn white baby, so my sister choose to adopt a one year old girl from China. While I know many adoptions from other countries go well, this one has been rocky from the start. A difficult distant baby turned into an EXTREMELY difficult teen, she has emotional issues, anger issues, bonding issues and so forth. She also has always been uncomfortable with the fact that she looks Asian while her parents do not. Because of her personality it is hard for us in the family to be very close to her and like it or not the truth is my family especially my parents just do not feel the same about her as if my sister gave birth to her. __________________ Lola my amazing little yorkie-pom Donna Last edited by DBlain; 10-13-2014 at 08:36 AM.