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Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom  Me and hubs just never had that burning desire to have kids, and I've always pretty much felt that way. I feel that unless you REALLY want kids, you may want to think about not having them. Some people think/feel "well, you get married and you have kids, of course!" -- I don't believe in that kind of thinking.
Like others have said, I LOVE my independence and the freedom of not having another little person depending upon me. I absolutely love being a fur Mom and wouldn't trade it for anything. We've never regretted not having kids. I'm now 46, btw...no regrets. |
The whole idea is so frustrating to me. Like if you don't want kids, you're either a lesbian or weird or something. It's crazy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting kids, whatever that decision may be.
I actually feel like it's SUCH a HUGE decision that is often not given much thought and I often wonder why so many unprepared people even bring kids into the world. I see parents who shouldn't be parents all the time.
I am undecided at this point. I won't say either way because I know a lot can change in my life. I am 24 and single and happy with that for now. When and if I meet the right guy, I am sure it's something we would discuss in the future. But honestly if a guy, right now at this point, was 100% dead set on having kids and wanted them within the next 5-10 years, I would likely pass because I won't make any kind of promise or assumption like that. At this point, I don't see myself physically having a baby, LOL. Adoption would be something more realistic for me. I have no problem bonding with certain kids that aren't mine and have no doubt in my mind that an adopted child WOULD quickly become "mine" but I also have no fantasies about a perfect little baby that is going to be so grateful and happy to have me! lol...
I've had the chance to have many young siblings (all 10-18 years younger than me) and cousins. I certainly don't lack my share of kid time. I just enjoy being able to give them back.
Not to mention, when I finally move out, it will be the first time I'll be living in a KID-FREE HOUSE! I'll likely be so ecstatic to finally have a bit of peace lol. Living with my siblings, I practically have helped raise them all minus the financial costs which is great.