Oh, you're telling my story Danni! (My name's Dani too!
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Anyway, my little Billi is my world. She's technically my dog, even tho I insust she's ours (my boyfriend and myself). I'm home all day with her, I bathe her, I feed her, I take her places with me, treats and training and lots of playtime. And who does she go apebleep for when he gets home from work? Disneyland Daddy!
She cuddles with him, follows him around (she does me, too, but him more), gives him all kinds of affection and attention that she barely gives to me and I'm like WTH!!
If I get any attention, it's short & to the point and definitely only on her terms. But daddy comes along and it's a different story...
I've heard for the longest time that females tend to favor the men in the house and males favor the women and while I'm aware that isn't true in all cases, that's how it's worked out for us. I had to really campaign for Billi for 2 years before my boyfriend would let us get her, so it was disappointing seeing how much they've bonded. Thankfully, we have a little boy coming in December and I'm making extra effort to have that bond with him.
To be honest, I do feel like I perpetuated Billi's bond with her dad. I'd get really excited when he gets home and encourage her to be excited to see him. I'm sure that over time, she's taken that to mean "the king is here, yippe!!"
Anyway, you're definitely not alone and I totally understand the disappointment. It actually, sorta hurts my feelings a little. I know Billi loves me and I'm sure your little girl loves you too- we're their mommy's, we're irreplaceable, but still. I get how you feel!