Quote:
Originally Posted by R-Teddy  Well see there is the problem. I understand completely the wanting to educate people an the importance in doing so. I also understand completely the Passion for it. I work for a pit bull rescue, believe me, I do understand. BUT, there are ways to talk to people and educate them without putting them down. What is SAD, is there are a lot of people who have not figured out how to do that and truly are blind to the fact that they do. I dont know how to help them see that. And there is the problem. |
And there is the problem!!! I guess what some people consider "putting people down" in a response, is not considered by others as such, and that does not make their opinion less correct. (Referencing the OP post and all the replies, I did not see ONE response where the OP was being "put down" or talked to in any way that deserves to be invalidated because it just did not sound like what someone/anyone else may think is "right" or "better" or "kinder, gentller".) I really try not to tell other people how I PERSONALLY THINK they should be talking or addressing a post.....we are all individuals and we all address issues differently. I learned a long time ago I can not possibly make everyone in the world talk like I do, think like I do, walk like I do, perceive issues like I do....so instead of trying to re-work everyone else in the world to be another me, I just let people be themselves and I weed through responses I dont like and I LEARNED TO GET OVER IT. People talk and think and believe and act and look like they want to....I can not change that, and I do not try.....and it does not make them wrong for being themselves, whether I personally approve of it or not. It does not even make them wrong whether I personally agree with it or not. All that can be done is providing education to people...if they dont like it, or dont agree with it, or dont approve of it, they move on, they get over it, or they simply ignore it. Rather than trying to "correct" the entire membership to post their responses like any single individual thinks it should be written, if the rules and guidelines are not broken, it is an individuals right to submit a post and not be subjected to ridicule and beligerant attacks for how they address an issue......just because I dont happen to like the way another member talks or writes or educates, does NOT make them wrong....it makes me criticlal and actually interfers with SOMEONE perhaps learning something. If members would quit turning and devouring each other over things like punctuation, spelling, run on sentences, even incongruent thought processes, and stick to addressing the post and perhaps trying to educate the best way THEY can, this place would be more effective and successful. This is where people come to learn about their pups, etc, This is not the place for members to attack other members and teach an EnglishGrammer/Literature/Composition class on how they should be writing or thinking or trying to educate a poster.
Posted by Nancy1999:" I do understand, I just don't know how to change my writing, I really do the best I can.
I see your initial posts as very attacking. Do you understand, that we have lost a lot of good responders because we are attacked and told our replies are worthless. Feel free to respond to any thread and answer the questions the way you think they should be answered, set a good example, but it really isn't all that helpful for you just to attack the people who are trying to give good information. If you think someone is way out of line in their replies, you can report them to admin. 
That is the job of the moderators....Ann takes her job very seriously and hovers around these posts and if someone reports a post, she will most certainly look at it and if it is inappropriate, she will see it is deleted.