Originally Posted by Oddsock  Not saying I've never been part of the problem, but would like to be part of the solution.
Sometimes it's not what is said, but how it's said. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
I'm a better dog/animal owner now, than I was as a teen or young woman, even though my intent, love, respect for animals hasn't changed. We all start at a different place, with different levels of knowledge and experience.
A newbie coming here, especially with a pregnant dog, or dog in need....well we've all seen them never reply or return after some of the things they are told (some wouldn't return, no matter what, but some leave due to the way they are treated). We are all here because we love the dogs, to get the best for the dogs, By being respectful of the human, and at times of how we say things, we are more likely to effect change for the dog in question.
Yes we have different styles, some of us are more direct (I need to improve) , but sometimes walking on egg shells is needed, for the sake of the dog. Not saying somethings, not judging/condemning for the sake of the dog, we want to help.
It would be good, to have volunteers, I think. ie like some forums have to 'welcome' new members. To have a group, who offers help to new members with pregnant dogs. A group for new members with sick dogs. Not saying other members don't join in, but maybe it would help, with a situation we keep seeing repeated here.
People are more open to listening, if they feel you care. |