[dawn27]

I am so sorry that you are having these issues . . I am sorry that she didn't have enough courtesy to even stay for dinner after you slaved over it all day. Being a parent is more that providing a roof, food, toys to throw and all the essentials for your children. More importantly it means providing your children the proper tools to be successful, in life starting when they are very young. By teaching them how to behave, respect and be gracious toward others and animals. You must also teach them that their actions have consequences by enforcing age appropriate discipline.

My x-SIL was just like that and it just drove me nuts. I am on of those people that if your child is in my home or yours and they are being disrespectful, hitting, throwing things and just plane acting a fool . . and you do nothing, you can bet your ass that I'm the one that is going to put a stop to it. If your child is misbehaving in MY home and you say and do nothing, sorry but I am going to tell them that it is unacceptable, put their little butts in a time out and than make them apologize for their behavior. Respect start at home.. if you allow your children to misbehave and act a fool with now consequences than how on earth do you expect them to behave in someone else's home. And that she had the nerve that when someone (you) finally spoke up and corrected her children she gets mad at you. That is just ridiculous !! Maybe if she had you would not have had to do it for her... Plus when it involves the safety of your pups and they clearly do not know how to behave or treat them with kindness it becomes a situation that should not be handled with kid gloves. Plain and simple . . hand off !!

You had every right to handle this situation as you did . . I just hope that you can find a solution to this problem. You have lots of great advise above and if your SGD cant see that her boys are out of control than maybe its best she doesn't visit unless she agrees to discipline them or allow you and your DH do while they are in your home.