Thanks Carol - well, this is all very new to me, she had mentioned to me in the past that her dog's arent close to each other, she was at my house and was observing my girls. I didnt really have an idea of what she really meant and she also asked me if mine have a jealousy issue, because her 3 dogs are very jealous of each other she said.
I have seen many times in the past that her 12lbs girl hoards food dishes ( any food dish ) she was at my house with her 2 yorkies one day and her big girl bit one of my girls because she walked past her own food dish. At that moment i thought with my "human mind" maybe that dog was starved when she was a pup before my friend got her. She doesnt share her toys or anything!
As far as i can see after reading up on this and reading replies here, i think this whole issue is going to cause my friend a lot of heartbreak. She is very attached to all 3 of her dogs. Though i have to admit that she allows her dogs to do as they please, she doesnt reprimand any of their behaviour.
Her husband, son and herself are on different levels as far as correcting their dogs is concerend, the son does not see anything wrong with the big girl's behaviour, the husband comes up for the 3lbs girl and my friend just shouts (without a voice) she will just call their names. None of them see anything wrong with the Chow mix and his behaviour, so i think this is going to be a tough situation to try and change