Monica, my heart goes out to you. I read all the posts, Cherish is a very lucky girl. She has had a very hard life. I'm afraid she’s going to remember bits and pieces of things that have happened. You might want to look into counseling for her. I think she is scared because she’s not really sure what is going on. Bless her heart, she’s still a baby. She’s very confused, about her Mom, and I think she is worried about you too. She has a bond with you, and is afraid she’s going to loose it. I’m glad she’s going to be with her Mom again, it’s best your sister will be living with your Mom, because Cherish is going to need her Grandma. I like the cookie idea, maybe you can have a craft day too. She can make pictures for her Mom.
As far as Potty Training, I think her accidents are due to fear. She’s scared, and it’s her way of letting you know. Our Daughter did the same thing when she first came to live with us. She really wanted panties with ruffles, and with one week of no accidents, she had ruffles in every color. We talked to her and told her, she was a big girl and if there was a problem we can talk about it. She stopped wetting her pants. She still comes up with some off the wall questions for us. But at least she knows, no matter what it is, we will always work things out.
Your family has been thru a lot. You said you have children, I’m sure this has been hard on them too. It’s not easy explaining why people do the things they do.
Three of our children were severely abused, our youngest it started when she was two, She’s now fourteen, and has many problems. Counseling helps, but it also proved just how much she remembers. They didn’t fill us all in before the adoption, and I must say we were shocked at just how much they left out. We would have adopted them any way, but I could have prepared our boys a little better. Explaining things to them was not easy.
I wish your Family the best, and every thing works out for you. Someday Cherish will know just how much you have done for her. We will keep you all in our Thoughts & Prayers. Thank you for helping Cherish, You’re a real Angel. Hugs to your family.
