I'm so glad that your puppy is okay and that this turned out as it did. That's what is truly important here.
I can see that you were hurt by some comments here, and I can understand how you feel. However, you really must try to understand that this is a dog forum, and our dogs are absolutely precious beyond anything to most of us. It's clear you think your dog is precious to you as well - I see that. What can upset people here is when they see, sadly time and time again, someone here with a very sick dog who they don't have the funds to take care of. Can you understand how tough that is to witness? We've seen this a lot, and
it gets tough.
No one here wants to hurt you, but they do want to see people (in general) be prepared to care for a *life* when they take one on as their responsibility. That's where it comes from - and that's coming from a good place...a place of concern, fear, caring.
You felt defensive, and that's okay...but when you came back with a post that was a bit attacking in return, it really didn't help matters. It's understandable you needed to get your feelings out - we all get that. But, you went a little too far there. You definitely went too far in implying one of our members was a rich snob - this particular member bases her life around rescuing yorkies - she is anything but a rich snob.
I hope going forward you can try to see where people were coming from, and that it wasn't meant as a personal attack on you. Rather, it was based in concern.
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Originally Posted by Topazie  All you do is upset the Momma and close off communication and then that person will not be open to some good advice that may help the baby in the future. People may only be trying to help the baby but they need to keep in mind that no matter how you feel about the Momma, you need to get the Momma to listen to your advice for it to help the baby. Making her feel worse in the middle of crisis won't do that. |
I culled this from your post bc I think these words are very important and I agree with them. I do think we have to be careful in balancing support, advice, constructive criticism, and destructive criticism. It isn't always easy....sometimes threads go beautifully, other times - some things go awry. But, I can tell you for sure that people really do care about you and the outcome for your precious little one.
Please, keep us posted on her recovery! Sending your kiddo lot of healing, good thoughts for her recovery.
