[Latuya]

I do know how your feeling! I went though that not too long ago. We have been married now for 14 years and there for a while I think we just lost or just lost sight of whole love thing. I know he loved me but sometimes I feel he loved the "family thing" a bit more. He adores the kids and feels that the family bond is very important. I feel it's because he grew up without a dad and he does not want to miss a thing in his childresn lives. Which totally understandable.

It started about 5 years ago. He was working nights, I was working days and we really didn't see much of eachother. And when we did get to spend time with one another, I felt that there was nothing there anymore. Besides the kids I felt we had nothing between us. I was so scared that I had just fallen out of love with him. I brought it to his attention and we talked and talked and talked and talked some more. We put some effort in this relationship and both came to the understanding that with everything that was going on at the time, us working different hours, me being upset to come home to a dirty house after working 8 hours, us not spending anytime with eachother besides as a family doing family things with the kids and never actually alone.

I ended up leaving for a weekend and was so ready to come home and have the talk,,,,, I was so ready to ask for a seperation. it was the best thing I ever did! It was when we had the talk and insted of asking for the seperation and my thinking it's what he wanted to, It was the the other way around. He realized how I was feeling and knew I was not happy. We still have our ups and downs but I no longer doubt our love. He has been there through the toughest times in my life. He is my best friend and although I want to kill him at times he is there for me and I no longer have any doubt about our relationship. I stopped working, he started working days and he made more time for "us". We do go out on dates at least once a month NO KIDS!!!! Have you done this? We go dancing, movies, dinner, the beach for dinner and walk.

I do think you need to get away. You need time to think. Don't let him make you feel like a bad mother! You need to find yourself and think things through most of all you need to talk to him. If at that time you still feel the way you do, then you need to deside what to do. I do know that if you are unhappy it will not work. And sooner or later the kids will pick up on it. It is better to be true to yourself and not put up an act for the kids sake. My oldesr daughter seen me cry countless times and I know she was very worried at the time. Not too long ago she brought up the sub, she asked me if that her dad hadent changed and paid more attion to do I think we would still be together. I hate that had to see me like that. And I just reinsure her that I am very happy with my life and not only am I'm happy, I know I am still in love! I do wish you the best!