[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by Princess Zoe

I just re-read some of your past posts and I wanted to point out that there is a distinct difference between "Love" and "Obsession". When you love someone, you respect them. You care about their feelings and dreams and needs. You care MORE about them than you do yourself, and if being without you will make them happiest, then that is what you want for them too!! Obsession is completely different. You don't think you can live without the other person, so you say insane things to get them to stay, make them feel guilty or hopeless, or to make them feel that there is no getting rid of you, so why even try?! Like when he said these things..... "you won't ever leave me..I wont allow it", "You'll have to burn me out like a cockroach" and "I'll kill myself if you do". Um, that is a little creepy. In other words he's saying "even though leaving me may make YOU happy, you might as well forget about it, because I'm not going anywhere. If anything it will just make your life worse because I will kill myself, and then you will have to explain to the kids that their daddy killed himself all because of YOU". The fact of the matter is.... you CAN leave him. You do need to take caution though with the threats that he has given. You need to sit down and really decide what you want to do. If you want to leave him, then you need to come up with a plan and not turn back. Make up your mind, and if you decide for sure to go then don't talk to him about it. Don't give him the opportunity to make you feel guilty. Maybe you should talk to a professional psychologist to get ideas of the best way to go about it. One time my Mom wanted to leave my step-dad and her counselor suggested starting a secret "runaway fund" for herself. You are a strong woman and you can do what is best for you and your family. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself, or manipulate you any longer.

Thank You SO Much!!