I definately think that your husband is emotionally and mentally abusive. Saying things like "he's going to kill himself" if you left him????? He is just trying to say anything and do anything to make you stay with him, without regard to what it will do to you emotionally or mentally. Any kind of abuse is for selfish reasons. If he cared more about you (I mean REALLY loved you), he would think about your feelings and needs, and not say such selfish things to keep you in an unhappy situation. Before I married my husband I was dating a guy like that. The crying and begging me to stay all the time. I too tried to break things off with him many times and he would just bring me presents and cry and beg, until I felt guilty and went back to him. When I was with him, I couldn't have any other friends because he would say "You are MY best friend now!!". So literally in the 6 mths. that we dated, I spent 1 evening with my best girl friend, and that's only because I SNUCK to her house, knowing that he would be SO mad at me later..... which he was.... "Where have you been?! I have been looking for you everywhere!" and on and on and on. Well, he was out of the country for awhile, and what did I do???? I GOT MARRIED! 50% because I loved my husband, and the other 50% was because of an attempt to escape my boyfriend and his manipulative ways. I knew that when he got home he would cry and beg until I gave in again. Even after I was married, he cried and wanted to hold my hand and dance with me, etc., etc. He had NO regard for my happiness. I'm so glad that I'm out of that emotional roller-coaster! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this in marriage.... that is just horrible.
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