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Originally Posted by ytsirk27 I have tried to leave, take breaks, etc.. I left for about a week. I moved 12 miles away and it didnt do any good. He came down all hours and would sit there and cry and make me feel like crap for leaving and that I was a bad selfish mom. asked for a break about 4 months ago and what he do? start yelling that he's just going to go kill himself and than ill have to explain to our daughters why he ddid that!!! I appreciate your responses but marriage counseling will not work. We go for a bit and than i'm back to the same feelings. I dont want to be here with him. I may miss him, yes, but thats mostly because he's all I know. I started dating him when i was 18. moved in with eachother 3 days later after we mewt. got married when I was 20 and had our first daughter when i was 21...im 29 now so it dont matter if you hate the person, your going to miss them for a while. I dont know what to do or think. I have ALWAYS put my kids first but personally If your going to stay in a relationship that you dont want . your (my) attitudes is really starting to suck. Im mad and grouchy all the time and my kids see that. So what you think is better..living with 2 parents where one is really unhappy and mad all the time or live with 1 parent and have all the access in the world to the other parent but their attitude is so much better?? Im not yelling at anybody so i hope you dont take it that way just stating more for the story!! |
I've been in relationships with crappy guys and even though he is not physically abusing you he is emotionally abusing you. I went with a guy (my first love) and I told him private things I never told anyone and when I went away to college he would use these things to upset me and get me to come home. Your husband sounds like this he sounds very selfish and almost like a child throwing a tantrum. Do not let him make you feel guilty or manipulate you. He is so terrified of losing you he is willing to do anything or say anything to make you stay. And his reasoning behind making you stay is not because he loves you because if he truely loved you he would want you to be happy. He wants you to stay and take care of him it sounds like he has the life if you're the bread winner and you take care of the kids. This is a hard situation because you would hate for your husband to do something aweful. I would suggest you go to conseling by yourself and get some pointers on how to handle your husband.