Awesome point, Val!
You only live once and you can't live your life wanting something more. You either need to make a break for yourself and your well-being or you need to decide what it is that is making you feel this way about your husband and fix it. Spending years being unattractive to him and wanting to leave is not going to help you one way or the other. As a child of divorce, yes it sucks, but it's not the end of the world. I would much rather have a happy mom than have a married mom. Your husband either needs to face up to the fact that there's problems in your relationship or quit bullying you into staying with him. If he's not willing to make things better for you, make them better for yourself.
Leave with the kids on a vacation for a weekend and let him see what it would be like to be a single man. Let him miss you and the kids and maybe he'll realize that he needs to pull his head out of his patooty and help you make this work, or he'll realize that it's time to end it. You may be the one who is unhappy, but there are two of you in your relationship and both of you need to address the problem. Do you still love him? Could you stand to see him with someone else? What made you fall in love with him, and where are those things now?
I wish you all the best of luck in this situation. |