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Originally Posted by red98vett I feel for you - I remember feeling like that but realized AFTER I left my first husband that I actually missed him....think very hard before coming to a conclusion - it can go either way.
Would you miss him if you were never to see him again ? If you say yes...then I would think very hard on this decision - good men are hard to find and the grass is always greener elsewhere ...till you walk on it - then it maybe isn't. |
I have tried to leave, take breaks, etc.. I left for about a week. I moved 12 miles away and it didnt do any good. He came down all hours and would sit there and cry and make me feel like crap for leaving and that I was a bad selfish mom. asked for a break about 4 months ago and what he do? start yelling that he's just going to go kill himself and than ill have to explain to our daughters why he ddid that!!! I appreciate your responses but marriage counseling will not work. We go for a bit and than i'm back to the same feelings. I dont want to be here with him. I may miss him, yes, but thats mostly because he's all I know. I started dating him when i was 18. moved in with eachother 3 days later after we mewt. got married when I was 20 and had our first daughter when i was 21...im 29 now so it dont matter if you hate the person, your going to miss them for a while. I dont know what to do or think. I have ALWAYS put my kids first but personally If your going to stay in a relationship that you dont want . your (my) attitudes is really starting to suck. Im mad and grouchy all the time and my kids see that. So what you think is better..living with 2 parents where one is really unhappy and mad all the time or live with 1 parent and have all the access in the world to the other parent but their attitude is so much better?? Im not yelling at anybody so i hope you dont take it that way just stating more for the story!!