I haven't read all of the posts, so I don't know if anyone has mentioned it yet. I have only been married for 6 1/2 yrs., and it is SO HARD! BUT...... being from a broken home, I wouldn't want to put my kids through a divorce. It is devastating to children, and they sometimes get put in the middle, and they sometimes get put to the back when a parent is trying to put their life back together. I just remember when I was 16 and starting to date, my Mom was dating too and was so involved in her own happiness, that I think she forgot where her attention should have been.... on her kids. I know this is not the funnest thing to hear, especially since any decision like this is totally guilt-ridden anyways, but it's the truth. Life would have been so much easier for us all if my parents would have just worked it out. It's funny now that we're older... we can see our parents as "real people" and not just as "our parents".... and my mom and dad are SO much alike, they really would make a great couple!
They have both struggled so much with new relationships (my dad has been married 4 times now, and my mom is in a horrible marriage).... they have also struggled with children who took sides after the divorce (my oldest brother won't even be friends with my mom because she initiated the divorce and he feels so sorry for my dad.... and the divorce was 15 yrs. ago!!!).... it really does affect everyone around you. So just think hard before walking away from your marriage. Any new relationship you find will have it's ups and downs too..... and you'll see (when it's too late) that your husband had a lot of strengths that you took for granted. I know it must be so difficult for you, and you want to be happy, but believe me, there are very negative effects of divorce as well. I really hope you are able to figure out what is best for you all. Take care
PS.... this is all assuming that your husband is not abusive. That is a different situation all together.