first of all, lemme just say i'm so sorry you're feeling this way. it's tough times and be assured that you have support here.
secondly, i strongly suggest that you get some counseling. sometimes men are majorly pig-headed. they say and do certain things without thinking how it can affect you and take your feelings for granted. and when we, women are taken for granted, we'll either retaliate or withdraw. it seems like you're doing the latter, you're withdrawing your feelings from the relationship. and he's too blind to see it, feel it, sense it, or hear it even if you tell him directly. sometimes men need someone else (not their wife or gf) to evaluate the relationship for them just to prove that "the woman" is not "over-reacting".
if you're miserable and he thinks everything is peachy then it's even more important for the two of you to communicate. and having an unbias 3rd party to mitigate the discussion would help to make it a more production discussion rather than a fight about who could've/should've done this or that way back when.
perhaps at the end of this, the both of you will come to realize that you're better off separated than together and arrive at an amiable end to your romantic relationship and the start of a friendly one for each other and for the kids.
my husband and i have been together for the better part of the past 15 years, the past three being married. there's a lot of up's and down's and it's not always happy happy moments. sometimes a break to re-evaluate yourself, your partner, and the both of you together is needed to move forward.
good luck. big hugs. my thoughts are with you. |