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Originally Posted by auntielaurie  BTW yorkie lady I never said breeding was the only thing I was good at. I'm very good at a lot of things.I put everything I have into everything I do..I don't skimp on anything. That's not who I'am. Don't put your word in my mouth.
Perhaps I'am taking the lost of this puppy harder than most. I spent the last month with her..dedicating every minute to making sure she was ok. It was the first time I bottle fed, tube feed and cleaned her to make her go potty.I slept beside her making sure she was always warm, I made sure she knew she was loved.Took her to the vet when I needed help..it wasn't enough and I have to live with that...learn for it, if I decide to continue breeding.
I'm quite sure you are very good at breeding..but way to fast to assume the worst about others...jmo.
Like I said before I was hesitant about asking anything about breeding and I was so right...never again... Yes loosing her was terribly hard. I hope I can move on..time will tell. |
You find someone that you can trust, someone that you believe you can listen to without feeling like you are being attacked....start with one person, but you can not possibly build a successful breeding program learning from only one person....you have to incorporate as many ideas from as many different people and sources as you possibly can...... hopefully, you can work thru this belief that asking for help in breeding or any area where you are trying to learn the skills necessary to be successful, is not acceptable to you and/or cause you hesitation because you perceive critical evaluation as an attack....hopefully you will work thru that and see that you can learn from EVERY interaction anyone has with you, whether you like the method or not, if you allow it. To "never again" ask for help or information in breeding, when you are JUST getting started, is to shut yourself completely off from a lifetime of wonderful learning opportunities from people that have a wealth of knowledge that will only make YOU a better breeder. As long as people deal with you honestly, and do not resort to calling you names, absorb what they tell you, and when you learn more skills, you can leave behind what you dont think fits into your program or your way of conducting your business. Your mind at this point should be like a sponge, learning everything you possibly can learn. We ALL continue to learn and weigh information and incorporate what we hear and are told about breeding, into what we think is best for each of us....and that goes for ALL breeders, regardless of how long you have been doing this....when the day comes that you think you will not ever seek to learn from anyone else that is knowledgable in this area, is the day your program begins to fail. NONE of us "know it all", and if you are new to this, you are hurting no one but yourself and your program by "never again" asking for help or advice. You lost a baby...we have all lost a baby....we have all worked 24/7 to keep a baby alive, for days on end, and lost the baby in spite of everything we did......grieve and get over it. Honer the baby by learning from your loss...what happened to cause its death, what could you have done differently, what is it going to change what you do in the future with future litters...THAT is how you honor that dead baby. THAT is what breeders do.......