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rubynrosie · 03-05-2013, 07:10 PM

Jeanie is one of my favorite posters...she is very good at getting her point across without making the other person thinking they are being bashed. I highly respect her opinion (as I do the majority...no scratch that...as I do with all of the experienced posters) I can say I see what you are saying Carissa that at times it seems "bashing" or over the top. I was hesitant at times to post questions when I first started. BUT after you have been on here for awhile you will see...the majority are here to advocate for the one that cannot advocate for themselves...the pup. And these experienced posters have been there, done that or seen that and they don't want to see another pup or mom lost to something that could have been prevented. That is where I think the passion comes in and us inexperienced posters might think its bashing. Also, if you look at a lot of the harsher posts, look at how the original poster (OP) takes the advice given to them.. 9 times out 10 if it gets really heated...the OP is not taking the information given in a positive manner. They may be defensive (which I might be too if someone was saying I was doing something wrong with my pup who I adore), they may be acting as if the experienced breeder knows nothing or it may seem like even though they know the risks they are still going to put their pup's life in danger. That is going to get hackles up. The other thing that needs to be realized is there are thousands of posters on here with a thousand different personalities and a thousand different opinions and we all have different ways of handling situations and how we choose our words and how we attempt to get our point across..some good some bad. The biggest piece of advice i can give is be respectful, don't take things personal, be open to another's opinion, keep asking questions and keep learning. Oh and also remember because we are typing words rather than speaking some times people missinterpret because the person doesnt get the verbal and body cues behind the words...they just get the written word and sometimes misunderstandings cuz more ruckus! I hope you don't ever feel bashed. I hope if you do you bring your concerns up...just like you did now. I think it was awesome you had the courage to ask...and I hope by asking it helps you better understand.

03-05-2013, 07:10 PM	#7
rubynrosie Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: ada mn usa Posts: 1,362	Jeanie is one of my favorite posters...she is very good at getting her point across without making the other person thinking they are being bashed. I highly respect her opinion (as I do the majority...no scratch that...as I do with all of the experienced posters) I can say I see what you are saying Carissa that at times it seems "bashing" or over the top. I was hesitant at times to post questions when I first started. BUT after you have been on here for awhile you will see...the majority are here to advocate for the one that cannot advocate for themselves...the pup. And these experienced posters have been there, done that or seen that and they don't want to see another pup or mom lost to something that could have been prevented. That is where I think the passion comes in and us inexperienced posters might think its bashing. Also, if you look at a lot of the harsher posts, look at how the original poster (OP) takes the advice given to them.. 9 times out 10 if it gets really heated...the OP is not taking the information given in a positive manner. They may be defensive (which I might be too if someone was saying I was doing something wrong with my pup who I adore), they may be acting as if the experienced breeder knows nothing or it may seem like even though they know the risks they are still going to put their pup's life in danger. That is going to get hackles up. The other thing that needs to be realized is there are thousands of posters on here with a thousand different personalities and a thousand different opinions and we all have different ways of handling situations and how we choose our words and how we attempt to get our point across..some good some bad. The biggest piece of advice i can give is be respectful, don't take things personal, be open to another's opinion, keep asking questions and keep learning. Oh and also remember because we are typing words rather than speaking some times people missinterpret because the person doesnt get the verbal and body cues behind the words...they just get the written word and sometimes misunderstandings cuz more ruckus! I hope you don't ever feel bashed. I hope if you do you bring your concerns up...just like you did now. I think it was awesome you had the courage to ask...and I hope by asking it helps you better understand. __________________ Bobbi and her two favorite girls...Ruby-Sioux and Rosie Too . We you Lola Marlene Bubbles Last edited by rubynrosie; 03-05-2013 at 07:14 PM.