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Originally Posted by Marhcarter

Well said. I found this forum because I had questions about some behavior of my dog and while i just read a lot that night and didn't post my problem asking for advice (I took him emergently to the vet), I have discovered this site is chock full of knowledgeable people. I have a low threshold for stupidity and ignorance, but to help people like this, we have to be constructive, not critical. We can phrase answers to stupid questions in ways that are not ugly even while we bite our tongues. Just because you think it doesn't mean you have to say it. I know my brain-mouth filter is broken at times, but as this is a written forum, it gives you a chance to review before posting. Stop, read what you wrote and see if it comes across the way it needs to. I would hate to run off people that we could really help. The dogs will be the ones to suffer and none of us want that.

I am the same way. I really have no filter. I say what I mean. All my friends know it. Sometimes when there is a problem and I am like wtf, I use my note feature and write what I am going to say. Then go back to it in a few and make the corrections that makes it sound nice but gets the point across.

I said it once I will say it again. My grandma always said. . . .

You get more flies with honey then you do with vinegar.

And the other was . . .

If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.