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Originally Posted by DBlain  I wanted to add this to my post but waited to long
I have a question as an outsider looking in. For those of you with depression or anxiety, what do you feel is the best way people close to you handle you when they might be getting frustrated with your problems in dealing with life. Do you like to be encouraged, or forced to do something, or just be left alone. I am assuming that when in the moment being left alone is your choice, but what about afterward, are you like, wow thanks for making me go or do such and such. Often my reaction is to try to encourage but I never really know the right approach. thanks |
I was not going to answer this but now I feel the need to.... For an outsider looking in on the world of somebody that lives day to day with anxiety here is how it goes... You wake up.. Better yet you TRY to go to sleep at night but you can't because you mind is going 500 miles a minute driving you nuts of did I say something wrong, did I do something wrong, have a hurt somebody, OMG did I do what was best for me, my family, my dog today are they going to get hurt or die because of what I did... Hmm do I smell fire? Did I leave a candle on.. Let me go check... Ok no candles wait did I lock the doors? Let me go check... Hmm are my car doors locked let me check that... Was Guinness fed enough today? Is his blood sugar ok or is going to die in his sleep? Wait I think I might have said something wrong to my friend today because she posted on FB she was upset... OMG I bet I did and now she hates me... She is attacking me I just know it but she is not saying it was me but I know everybody knows it was me... Now I wish I would just die in my sleep because I am not doing what is best for Guinness so he is going to die and I might have said something wrong and my best friend hates me... This goes on nonstop until my medicine kicks in and I can sleep!!! Around people I say things wrong or come across too blunt because I lack the ability to fully think thru what I say and how I say it before it just flies out my mouth... I have been known to hurt a person or two BUT after they come back and ask why did you say or do that and I explain and say that I am sorry we work things out like adults most times... Other times it comes down to they feel the need to attack back which just sends me into a deep dark lonely spiral bringing on even an worse attack which has been known to make me lock myself in my room in the dark alone and wish for death. People with anxiety a lot of times also have social anxiety that make us says things for attention because if we don't we fear we will fade into the background and forget us.... And these things might not always be the "right" things to say because no mater the type of attention it is just attention.
So figured now would be a great time to explain and let you know what it is like to live in our shoes.