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Originally Posted by rubymoon2072  i second that linda.  your always insightful but not judgemental. |
In my career, I spent some time working in the addictions field, so I learned a lot about letting go. Trying to control another person is an exercise in futility and honestly anyone who feels that they have to brow beat a person in to doing what they think is right needs help themselves. I always recommend Alanon to people...it is an awesome program!
None of us has a crystal ball. If the OP was being beaten then I would be a bit more vocal, but she is not in any danger to my knowledge. We don't know that her boyfriend is not going to change...he very well might. Improbable? Perhaps. But, the other thing is, she is the one who is living with him....not for me to tell her who to live with. IF she is unhappy, she will discover that and leave. We all have to live our own lives...and learn as we go. We can share with others, but when we insist people do as we feel they should, we are out of line imho and need to do a self check.